In the gay community, when you're using dating apps, the way people say "hi" can actually mean a lot more. A lot of these greetings aren't just friendly hellos; they're clues about what someone is looking for. Getting the hang of this can really help you figure out who's who in the world of gay online dating.
1. Looking for now = Seeking an immediate hookup
· This implies the person is interested in meeting someone for a casual encounter without any delay.
2. Fun = Looking for sexual encounters
· A euphemism for seeking sexual activities.
3. Can host = Able to have someone over at their place
· Indicates the person can invite others to their home for private encounters.
4. Masc4Masc = Preference for masculine-presenting individuals
· Suggests that the person is interested in others who exhibit traditionally masculine traits and behaviors.
5. Discreet = Seeking confidential encounters
· They are often used by individuals who prefer to keep their activities private, sometimes due to not being publicly out.
6. Open-minded = Willing to explore various sexual activities
· It signifies a person's willingness to try different sexual experiences.
7. Chill = Looking for a relaxed, pressure-free encounter
· Indicates a desire for a casual and laid-back meeting, without specific expectations.
8. Clean = Free from sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
· They are used to assert that someone does not have STIs, often controversial due to its implications.
9. Into = Interested in a particular activity or trait
· Specifies the person's preferences or interests in a partner or activity.
10. Straight-acting = Appears and behaves in ways culturally associated with heterosexual men
· Describes gay or bisexual men who do not exhibit stereotypically gay mannerisms or traits.
Have you used these coded messages in gay dating apps or chosen specific underwear to impress on a date? Each choice communicates something deeper. Do you know other secret codes? Sharing your experiences helps us all navigate gay online dating with more insight and connection.